What is freedom in our business and our life?
Freedom means many things to many people. Today we will focus on the mindset of freedom in our business and how it can empower you.
Many times we are motivated by the search for freedom and the relief that we perceive freedom to be, whether it’s a day off or a vacation in the woods.
What are some of the ways that we search for freedom in our business?
To be debt free?
To work toward retirement
To have a day off
To turn off the phone for an hour, a day or even longer
To have less to take care of
To have more time
To be less scheduled
To have less responsibility
To have more play time
To spend more time with family and friends
To have a large bank account.
To take a vacation
Being in “control” of your life and what you want to do
Which side of the coin do you want?
There is a difference between what it means for us to be free from something and to be free to do or be something. Freedom from and freedom to are two sides of the freedom coin. Know this and you will understand how you are motivated! In NLP we know that people are usually motivated by moving toward a goal, or away from that which makes us uncomfortable.
Freedom From-Turning the phone off gives me freedom from interruptions and stress
Freedom To-Staying on schedule gives me freedom to have more play time.
One of the greatest insights we can have is to observe for ourselves what we mean by freedom and what we are searching for.
Many times we think that Freedom will solve a problem for us. If we are deep in financial debt and start working our way out of it, we envision a freedom day where we will jump for joy and cut up all of our credit cards.
Freedom is often not in our physical space…after all, none of us is tethered to a desk. Freedom lies in our imagination, a horizon that we long for, a dream, or as we say in coaching “visionary reality.”
Sometimes Freedom IS in our physical space. I long to have fewer possessions and more clarity in my household. I love this definition of minimalism. “ A tool to rid yourself of life’s excess in favor or focusing on what’s important-so you can find happiness, fulfillment, and freedom.”
Clarity is Freedom
There is true freedom in being able to see what is right in front of us with clarity. As I was mulling over freedom this weekend, I came across a blog on living with less. One of the things it proposed was to go in each room of your house and count how many things are in each room. I realize that I spend to much time looking for things, and buying extras of what I already have. (Have you ever mapped out where everything is at in your office? That’s on my freedom list this week)
Our numbers tracker tool is a great tool for clarity. When you know your personal formula for what it takes to get a listing or a sale, there is no fuzziness around why business is not proceeding the way you hoped. There is freedom in that and relief from worry. Actions=results.
Clarity would be planning days off in advance. Freedom does not often come from simply being a boat adrift. Many of you have experienced this as your work days run together with no vacations or days off.
Make a list of where you long for more freedom. Create a freedom plan. If you need time to drift without a plan, plan for that!
Freedom comes from multiple points of view
Our limits are only in our mind. When we think external events are causing us problems, it is our thoughts about these events that cause us problems, not the circumstances themselves. We use conditional dialogue like, “when I get my taxes done, then I can be happy.” when it’s really our thoughts about our taxes, not the physical act of doing them. We program our brains/thoughts every day. Seeing things in new ways from new perspectives is the freedom to choose your attitude. In the words of Owen Fitzpatrick, “One of the most important freedoms we have is to see one situation from multiple points of view.” How often do we take the time to practice this?”
(Hint: an election season is the perfect time to practice this)
Creativity leads to Freedom
The co-founder of NLP, Richard Bandler says, “ To me, freedom is the single most important experience that human beings can have. It is the act of creation itself-not just creating great things like art and music, but creating the great moments of your life.”
Stress and worry stifle creativity. When you can reinvent your business on a regular basis, there is such a freedom in that. What other job allows for this? Moving away from the norm, having clarity, questioning what works and what doesn’t, stepping out of our comfort zone…these are all freedoms that he have in Real Estate. So you can make the mental choice…will you be free today or live in some imagined servitude.
If you want to be more free..
Owen Fitzpatrick says, “ If you want to be free or if you want to bring more joy into your life, you must choose to change in certain ways. You must choose to learn about freedom. You must choose to learn about change. You must choose to learn about how you experience your problems. You must choose how you experience your relationships. You must choose how you understand the universe. You must choose how you act, you think, and live.”
Make your freedom list. What freedom do you dream of? Freedom is a great motivator.
Are you preoccupied with your limitations? Your limits are only in your mind…and your mind belongs to you. Play with life. Be like a child on the playground. It’s what we think about our business and circumstances that causes us problems…not the circumstances themselves. Having the mindset of freedom gives us a vast ability to grow