Superman as victim of Kryptonite

In the victim role, whether it is us or our client, there is a sense of ” Poor Me”. An internal voice may say ” Why is this always happening to me?” If  we have transactions falling apart it can send us spiraling into victim hood. The experience of this is a sense of being powerless, hopeless, helpless and a victim of circumstances beyond our control.

A client may be searching for the perfect house as other choices are sold out from under them. They may express that this is always happening to them and they feel frustrated and powerless to find the house that will be a perfect fit.

The victim searches for a “Rescuer” in the drama triangle. Often the agent works harder and harder to become that “Rescuer” that will find the solution to the victim’s dilemma.

When we choose to stay in victim mode, decision making becomes more difficult, life gets harder, and and our vision becomes clouded. All of these support the role of acting out the victim role as we look for confirmation that this is the way things are.